They Called You “Too Much” … But That Was Never the Truth

You were never too much.
They just didn’t know how to handle you.
And now you’re out here carrying that like it’s your fault.

Let’s just be honest.

They didn’t say it outright, not always.
Sometimes it was a look.
Sometimes a sigh.
Sometimes a joke that wasn’t really a joke.

But the message landed:
You feel too much.
You care too much.
You talk too much.
You react too much.

And somewhere along the way, that “too much” started sounding like truth.

So what did you do?

You learned to quiet yourself.
To make it easier for them.
To not “rock the boat.”
To be agreeable, likable, impressive, helpful… anything but inconvenient.

And you didn’t stop being who you were… you just got really good at hiding it.

Can we name what that was?

Because here’s the thing…

This isn’t just about being a sensitive kid.
It’s not about being emotional.

It’s about how you were taught—directly or subtly—that your God-given wiring was a problem to fix instead of a gift to carry.

You learned that emotion = weakness.
That conviction = attitude.
That fire = rebellion.
That speaking up = drama.

And over time, without even realizing it, you turned the volume down on your own voice just to be understood… or at least, not misunderstood.

You became strong in the ways people applauded.
But it came at a cost.

So let’s talk about that cost for a second.

It’s not small.

You’ve spent years managing your tone.
Trying not to seem too “intense.”
Second-guessing what you’re feeling, even when it’s obvious something’s off.
Nodding when you wanted to speak.
Smiling when you wanted to sob.

You’ve lost time, energy, peace, yourself.

And maybe the hardest part?
You don’t even know what parts of you were you, and what parts were just survival.

Because when a woman starts to believe she’s “too much,” she starts shrinking in places God actually meant for her to stand tall.

But here’s the real truth no one told you:

You’re not too much.
You’re deep.
You’re discerning.
You’re wired differently on purpose.

That “overreaction” they rolled their eyes at?
That was your gut saying something wasn’t right.
That “emotional spiral” you were made fun of for?
That was your heart processing something real.
That fire they tried to dim?
That was purpose.
That was passion.
That was Spirit.

It was never too much.
It was just too real for people who’ve numbed themselves to survive.

And maybe you’ve been trying to be like them.
But girl… you’re not here to blend in.
You’re here to wake up.

God didn’t create you to be quiet, small, or palatable.
He made you in His image.

And that includes your tenderness.
That includes your boldness.
That includes your conviction and your tears and your holy fire.

You don’t have to hide what He never asked you to hide.

Let that sink in.

So what now?

Now we return.

Not to the “good girl” version of you who learned to shrink to survive.
Not to the over-functioning version who made everyone else comfortable but never felt safe herself.

We come back to the center.
To the core of who God made you.

You’re not too much.
You’re not broken.
You’re not dramatic.

You’re you.
And that’s always been the point.

If you’ve been walking around feeling like you’ve got to hold it all together while secretly wondering if you’re just too much for everyone… this is your reminder:

You’re not too much.
You’re just not meant to live watered-down.

✨ Meet Me in the Middle.
That’s where we untangle this.
That’s where we breathe again.
That’s where you get to come home to the woman God actually made you to be.

👉 [Click here to Meet Me in the Middle] — for the woman who’s done pretending peace and ready to actually feel it again.

You’re not lost.
You’re just in the middle.

And that?
That’s where we return to center. 🖤

This is Messy in the Middle.
And this?
This is yours.

Deanna